another community mental health intake interview

Being unemployed has made it too expensive for me to receive treatment from a psychiatrist and counselor for my bipolar mood disorder that seems to be stuck on depression at this point and crippling anxiety. My suffering has caused my closest family members to suffer also. My marriage of 29 years today is in shambles. My adult sons have watched me deteriorate to the shell I have become. In desperation, I called and scheduled an appointment to be seen at the local community mental health center. A couple of years ago I was receiving treatment there and my counselor who was a LCSW-C began to cry during my sessions which really freaked me out, but the abrasive psychiatrist was determined to medicate me into a drooling zombie. My current reality is that I live in a very rural area in the Blue Ridge Mountains and I’m broke, therefore I  am praying for a better experience now that both the counselor and psychiatrist are no longer employed at the center. So for $150 a very attractive young blonde had me sign all of the legal documents and asked me a long list of yes or no questions that do not really have yes or no answers and talked to me as if we were discussing a machine rather than a human being who is in desperation, depression and reaching out for a life line. The two people who loved me unconditionally and supported me through the rough patches died over the past five years and I feel alone and afraid it’s too late for me to get help and rebuild my life from scratch without  even a friend. I do have a grain of hope and that has given me the strength to reach out one last time.


alone and empty, again…


I am in the beginning of the middle of the storm, again. This time I am not 10 years old, awkward, lonely and terrified. I am 49 years old, awkward, lonely and terrified. During the thirty-nine years in between I have become older, more awkward, lonelier and more hopeless than terrified. My tenth year was the one that brought devastation that would kill the woman I might have become. That hot summer day in July 1974 forever ripped my life into before and after the murder of my step-father. My young Mother and 4 year old brother became the holy trinity, scarred and intimately aware of how people known to you could invade your home with hand guns and a sawed off shotgun, hold you hostage and wait to take the life of our protector. No place would ever feel safe again, no person could ever be trusted ever again because we had seen into the darkest places of man’s soul, and that 10 year old girl’s childhood and dreams died that day. Something inside of her mind was broken and began to bring the storms that many times destroying everything and everyone in her life leaving her ragged and alone, always alone. This time feels different because there is nothing left that I haven’t already lost except my long painful journey alone among those I love and the wreckage of my broken dreams and heart. I cannot think my way out of this place inside me.  Today I CHOOSE to pray, be thankful for my blessings and keep putting one foot in front of the other. I am praying that one of these times I am reaching out that someone will reach back.

my depression has swallowed me

In November of 1989 I was a 25 year old woman, recently separated from my husband, with two beautiful sons aged 4 and 1 year old. I lived in a two bedroom apartment, worked full-time and felt very torn to be away from my boys all day. I was determined to give them the best lives I possibly could which caused me to cook homemade meals every evening and never feeding them fast food or a can of Spaghetti Os for dinner. We sat together for our dinner talking about their day, played, then I gave them baths and after they were dressed in their favorite pajamas we all snuggled in my oldest son’s race car bed as I read their favorite books. This was my favorite time with them. They were relaxed, fresh from their baths and loved my undivided attention. It was a time for us to talk about anything and everything on our minds and in our hearts. We shared funny stories, fears, dreams, questions, comfort and encouragement. My love for them was my anchor and they were my purpose in life, my reason for getting out of bed every day and moving forward even through the tsunamis that I felt I was always trying to steer us out of  or hold off. After they were asleep is when all of my important work began. I kept our home sterilized, ironed their clothes, polished their shoes, cleaned up our dinner dishes and prepared everything in the crock pot for the following day’s meal so I could just plug it in before I left for work.  I had always been high energy, talked fast and insomnia, but I began to feel like the tazmanian devil. After it began to be obvious that I needed help, my best friend took me to the emergency room to “have my medication adjusted” and I was hospitalized for the first time. I still remember how much shame, fear and denial that I felt at that time. That first night they brought a woman into my room who had just been transferred from a medical step down unit because she drove her car off of a bridge attempting to end her life. The nurse explained to me that was why it was so important that people with our illness never to stop taking our medication even after we began to feel better. She obviously didn’t know me I remember thinking because I would never try to kill myself. Fast forward through decades of a very painful and very messy life to May 2004. It didn’t happen they way I thought it did. I never told myself I was going to kill myself and took the steps to make that happen. I was once again in that lonely, dark, deeply painful place and in what felt like seconds I jumped in our car, didn’t put on a seat belt, started the car, closed my eyes and drove as fast as I could into a tree. The car was totaled, but amazingly I walked away with just a back strain. I don’t believe I wanted to die, I just wanted to end the pain and that felt like the only way. I have never found anyone who has not personally experienced first hand bipolar mood disorder to truly understand. I am now post-menopausal and the hormonal changes have caused me to experience 3-4 years of deep depression that has crippled me so that I rarely leave my house, spend most of my time in my room and have lost most of my family and friends. I lost my health insurance about that time because I lost my job after my second hospitalization so I have been untreated during that time. I just turned 49 this month and I truly can’t go on like this much longer. I was not prepared for early menopause or how it would completely change how my illness presents itself. Has anyone else experienced a big change as you’ve grown older or due to a hormonal change?